Day 154 -“To date or not to date….that is the question….”

Now, there are two distinct schools of thought on this subject. Btw, I’m taking a vacation day from the thrilling saga that is my life to discuss something that I feel will be very pertinent soon, at least to my daughters as I try to offer some fatherly advice. First we must define “what is dating?” Well here are some widely accepted definitions…
Of a couple, to be in the early stages of a relationship where they go out on dates to find out what each other is like, as a prelude to actually being a fully fledged couple.
“James and Brenda where dating until James tried to sleep with her on the third date.”
socially acceptable form of prostitution.

I spent a $30 for a movie, before the first base. A $50 for lunch, for the second base, and a $70 on a romantic dinner before we cut to the chase.
The modern day battlefield of romance where hearts are won and broken, the not-quite so version of chivalry and wooing, an interview for a lover; the lay down some time-and money and see if you get some candy routine; the progressed game of cat-and-mouse; the human courtship ritual; playing baseball for a home run.
“Yeah, I’ve dated her several times. 1st time was flowers, a movie, and a nice dinner. The second time was a fancy dinner and tickets to an event. And on the third date we saw a movie again and, badda-bing-badda-boom, we had sex before the night was through.”
1. To see someone.
2. To be with someone.
3. To be “together”.
4. The action of doing any sort of various activities to gain acquiantance with someone romanically.
“I am dating Mike, he is a lot of fun.”
A pointless waste of time… defined by massive usage of cologne and/or perfume, awkward sweaty hand-holding, and feelings of puppy love that usually dissolve in a few weeks (or less)
“we’re dating, and, like, he, like, is picking me up in 10 minutes!”
“wow, you, like, smell, really, like, strong!”
n. a form of prostitution in which sex is paid for in installments rather than all at once.
“Dating Karen is great, if I buy her two more dinners, she’ll let me touch her boob.”
1)a courting process between the male and female, male and male and female and female of the species commonly known as humans

“Mary-Sue and Frank had been dating only 3 weeks when they discovered that their identical last name was no coincidence at all… ”
The process of wasting time with another one is infatuated or sexually attracted to, usually of the opposite sex. Most of the time, this takes the form of typical ‘small talk’, boring activities such as going out to dinner or to the movies, et cetera. This is usually to distract each other from the reality that they have nothing on their own, though usually women are more oblivious to this due to cultural norms. In real relationships, this can just be a form of killing time, because it’s not really needed for any meaningful interaction. Typically, this lack of deeper bond is the reason why relationships split up, but the distractions keep it going for awhile so it’s a big painful storm when one or both parties realizes that fairyland is a fake place and that you have to WORK for a REAL relationship.
“Most ‘dating’ is highly predictable and a complete waste of time.”

When you have been going on romantic encounters with a certain person for some time and he has yet to ask you to be his girlfriend because he is a wuss. An unofficial couple.
“Gosh, We have been dating for 3 weeks already, he is such a wuss.”
somewhere between sex buddy and boyfriend
Ashley: So is he your FB or BF?

Lisa: No we’re dating…
v. the act of entering into the domain of hell where the lost and the lonely go to get laid.
Example :
“My bofriend dumped me now I must start…(sob sob blubber) dating.”
(1950s and 1960s) – The act of being in the company of someone of the opposite sex in a social situation. An ancient ritual baby boomer humans used to find a permanent life mate.
(2000s) – A term to describe a relationship involving sex;
(1965)- Mother: “Are you dating anyone?”
Daughter: “Not really, Mom. I have
too much homework.”
(2005)- Mother: “Are you dating anyone?”
Daughter: “A couple Harley guys.”
Mother: “Do you need more condoms?”
American definition:
Widespread social practice through which a guy happily pimps himself out for a few hours to a costly female in exchange for hopes of getting laid and eventually a lonely night of sexual frustration.

European definition:
Final stage of courting whose female acceptance necessarily leads to bedroom fun in the immediate aftermaths.

“Hey Mike, how was dating last night? – Well she asked for a ride home so I had to finish myself in the bathroom and spend the rest of the night sleeping on the couch”

“Hey Giorgio, how was your date last night? – Dude, she wouldn’t even let me finish dessert so I took her home and made her bite the pillow until she passed out”

Dating means that going out with opposite sex to understand them well. Dating leads to marriage,love,friendships.

“Let me say, I have a friend whom i am taking her out with an intention of knowing her better before marriage or love, then it is dating.”

With those examples said, lets delve into the Christian viewpoint stated above. (Personally, I subscribe to numbers 1. 4. 8. And 14).
“Dating” IS NOT a relationship status. In my humble opinion, dating is the activity or vehicle used to qualify whether that person is relationship material or worthy of marriage. What’s grates me are points of views from both sides. Yes, some use dating as a form of prostitution. If I buy u enough dinners, pay for enough movies, send enough flowers…then they’ll b paid in sex. (This where most Christians are going to disagree w me) . I only have an issue with this if this expectation is not clearly discussed and agreed to by both parties, which it rarely is. If two consenting adults decide that if the male “wines and dines ” the female to a prescribed amount, she will then “sleep” with him, I believe that is perfectly legitimate. My problem is that is rarely the case.

On the other side, “dating only for marriage ” is, to me, just as absurd. That’s saying I will only take a girl out for dinner if I intend to marry her! How ridiculous! How would I ever know if she’s marriage material if we never spend any time together? No one in their right mind goes out on a first date intending to marry….operative word…in their right minds. U go out to get to know a person…to see whether they would a good friend….a good business contact….if ur lucky, someone to start a relationship with. But even starting a relationship, THAT’S to see if they are marriage material. There is no possible way to know if someones marriage material in a few dates…even in a few months of dating….even after being engaged for six months! People put on their best face for dates….even after starting a relationship….for the first 6 months… (believe it or not, I’m not done…to b continued)

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