Ive attempted several times to discuss this topic and its completely unbiblical and destructive roots. But by being a man, unfortunately it has never been well recieved. Well, fortunately, a well respected female author has written her opinions about this subject and repost them for your pondering. Maybe the women will hear her and finally wake up. Maybe.
By Samantha Strahan-Luckett
There has been a steady pattern of relationship books on the market over the past couple of decades. It’s seems as though the trend started with men and women being from different planets, and it has progressed to women having to think like men in order to have the type of relationships that they want.
This fad has done absolutely nothing but get the authors of the books rich, and the women who read them broke and lonely.
Maybe that was a little harsh. My bad…
The reality is, if you are a woman, you need to think like a woman. And not only are you a woman; you’re a wife. Concentrating on what your husband is thinking and trying to get him to do things that you want him to do that way is nothing but manipulation at its best, or worst, depending on how you look at it. Manipulation is not of God. it’s not positive relationship tactic. It’s ridiculous.
But it did produce a good movie.
As I always say, if you want to learn how to be the wife that you want the best person to consult is the third fold of the cord that binds you and your husband together.
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” (1 John 4:7, 8 NIV)
God is love. He is the first example that we have of love, and He is the One who shows us how to love.
The books that are being mass produced these days are based on a gross generalization. They are based on what people think men think. Just like every woman is different, it is equally the same for men. Men have been given a bad reputation. They have been labeled as animals, dogs more specifically. Dogs are scavengers; they sniff out what they want and scratch around until they can get it.
A man is not a dog; he’s a man.
He’s not a planet or a fruit or a mineral or a wild animal.
He’s a man.
And keeping with this same discovery, he was made in the image and likeness of our Father God (Genesis 1:26). Your husband was designed after God, and deserves to be treated as such. He’s not someone that should be manipulated or tricked into doing what you think you want him to do. He is better than that and so are you! Would you want your husband reading a book to tell him how to MAKE you the wife that HE wants?
Of course not!
God designed your husband the way he is and God gifted you to him as a wife. A helpmeet and companion; not a Jezebel. You are the woman to pray for him and do what you can to help him be the best him he can be. Not to change him and trick him into being your puppet.
Let’s all remember this a good marriage relationship, or any relationship for that matter, isn’t one that is based on lies, games and manipulation. A good relationship is built on a Godly foundation, with a Christ-like attitude and unconditional love. A no-matter-what kind of love.
You don’t have to think like a man. You have a man that thinks like a man already. 2 men in your relationship is a whole ‘nother conversation. Embrace the woman that you are!
Sooo, Miss Lady, put that book down! Give it back to whomever gave it to you. It’s no good. You’re a woman not man. You are meant to think like a woman…. So think like one!!!
(I’m running laps and shouting because another woman who is married and has a man is saying this to the unmarried women trying to get a man and married women!!!!!)