Looking through a two way mirror

Honesty-Is-The-Chapterin-The-Book-of-WisdomJust random thoughts here: no revolutionary ways to change or grow your business. Continue at your own risk.

The climate of our world (US) is deafeningly tragic.

We, collectively, have resigned ourselves to deem anyone, outside of ourselves

  1. Wrong
  2. Unworthy
  3. Beneath us
  4. Selfish
  5. UnAmerican
  6. Unintelligent
  7. Lazy
  8. Over sensitive
  9. Committed to undoing our peaceful and serene world

Let me share with you how counter productive and corrosive that thought process is.

I recently experienced the death of something that I had committed my life to. It is one of those things that you never recover from. The pain of loss never subsides…..you just have to learn to live with it. It scars you forever and never heals.

When someone, other than ourselves, experience a devastating, life shattering loss like this; we tend to bypass the brokenness of the heart and go right to the what they could’ve done to avoid it.

you know the “what they did wrong”

“If you fix (insert your observed character flaw they have), you wouldn’t have had to go through that. Things would have turned out differently. “

We completely ignore that there is a hurting broken soul in front of us and completely go into what will support and fill our need to be superior and elitist by fixing what we believe is wrong with them. It makes us feel better about ourselves to help someone fix their, obvious to us, character flaws.

When someone is in pain, often we believe that their needing someone to empathize with their heart, time and energy…..not sympathize with their cliches and socially acceptable Oprah quotes or christian rhetoric; is

  •  selfish and only wanting to draw attention to themselves for pity
  • lazy You know “when life knocks you down, pick yourself up by your bootstraps and keep going.
  • unintelliegent. Smart people dont get themselves into situations like they did
  • unAmerican. your thoughts and views dont match my idea of what americans do or think or feel. So you are obviously a terrorist.
  • over-sensitive……pansy snowflakes.

The truth is: we become the embodiment of the unintelligent, unAmerican, lazy, over-sensitive, selfish pansy snowflakes we despise when we attempt to defend, correct, or fix whats wrong with others…..

INSTEAD OF…..

Crawling down in the pit of their despair….stopping our busy lives of soccer practices, PTA meetings, girl’s nights out, shopping for the new furniture or planning the next weekend vacation…….sitting next to the broken, the lost, the hurting, the depressed, the struggling, the dirty, the one that made more mistakes than they got right in life……and not highlighting whats wrong with them or what they need to fix about themselves….

but whats right with them….

why they should even try…

but mostly…..

hold their hands….

cry with them….

just listen with no solutions…..

because what you don’t know is that

EVERYONE THEYVE EVER MET HAS TRIED TO FIX THEM….

BUT NO ONE HAS EVER STOPPED TO LISTEN TO THEM.

EVERY ONE HAS STOPPED TO THROW DOWN A ROPE INTO THE PIT FOR THEM TO CLIMB OUT……

BUT NO ONE HAS EVER CLIMBED DOWN TO SIT WITH THEM AND LISTEN TO WHY THEY ARE SCARED OF THE WORLD OUTSIDE OF THE PIT.

think about that the next time youre about to try to fix someone else or talk about what’s wrong with the world.

the Truth is: there’s nothing wrong with the world. It’s perfect. The only problem with it is that we are in it. And we are not nor will ever be perfect. want to know what’s wrong with the world….grab a mirror….that’s what the problem is.

 

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